When your heart gets broken

OK so I admit I can be a bit clingy sometimes, but not always. We all have probably experienced a breakup at some time in our lives. If you have not, then you have been much luckier in love than I have been and I hail you for avoiding love's sting when it comes to breaking up.

This holiday we like to call Valentine's Day seems to have been built, by merchants, to bilk couples out of money to shower loved ones with gifts. Well I like gifts all year long so I hate waiting for one day a year for that kind of appreciation. Oh well, being single on this holiday is not the end of the world. We can all learn something from past breakups, if we just pay attention to our personal history.

These books and movies send bad messages to women all over the place. This girl picks the guy who left her, she loses sleep, pines away for him, and does not want to live in a world where he does not exist. OK then!

She has a perfectly nice, loving guy in the background, waiting with baited breath for her to pick him, but it doesn't happen. Granted the werewolf guy is also a bit freaky, but he offers her a life of not having to change into a vampire. Nope, she's having none of it.

Why do we then pick the wrong guys sometimes? Well books and Hollywood does not exactly send us positive messages always so then too many women think drama has to be a part of all relationships. It bothers me when women are portrayed as simps when it comes to love.

I suffered from depression once, clinical depression and the guy I was dating at the time told me I was smart, had a good head on my shoulders and so on so forth. But then he decided he needed to change me. He started telling me how I should dress, how to wear my hair, how much makeup to wear and the list went on and on.

Well one week he said he couldn't get in touch with me for a while because he had to go out of town and couldn't talk to me while away. He claimed it was some family matter. Well he didn't get in touch with me for three weeks and it seems he was just tired of our relationship. OK so I can be clingy sometimes, but this behavior was truly in bad taste.

While it is healthy to change a bit in a relationship, it is not healthy to change everything about yourself for anyone. If someone does not like you for who you are, then it is bound to lead to a breakup sooner or later. For the woman who feels bad about herself over the relationship, I would lean to the sooner side of breaking up. You do not have to become a completely different person for anyone. This should be a deal breaker in the making.

Actually what I learned from a long distance relationship is that is it is difficult to maintain. I had a long distance relationship once and not only did the distance work against it, but his friends decided to meddle and give him advice. They meddled a lot and it reached the point of interfering and it was bad news.

Some relationships cannot be saved no matter how hard we try. Just walk away from it, hoping you learned a lesson and grow from what you learned from the fiasco. Better luck next time.

I'm not at all bitter over these lost relationships and I still believe in love. Even if I never get the perfect. romantic love in my life that lasts, there are many things in this world to love.

I love good books, good movies, my family and true friends and always love good music. So if you are not in a relationship this Valentine's Day, don't feel badly, it happens to many of us and yet our hearts will go on.

Happy Valentine's Day to all, single or not!